To improve another's behaviour of capacity to learn, you will need to change something in you. This reading list is to help you discover what sort of help is out there, and how ideas about learning, behaviour and relationships have changed. Reading is always helpful when undertaking great change. What interests you?

Understanding Bullying

• Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends and the New Realities of Girl World by Rosalind Wiseman (2003-06-26)

• Bullying: A Complete Guide to the Support Group Method by George Robinson and Barbara Maines

• Understanding School Bullying: Its Nature and Prevention Strategies by Peter K Smith

Understanding empathy, compassion and love

• Empathy what it is and why it matters by David Howe

• Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential and Endangered by Maia Szalavitz and Bruce D Perry

• Empathy: A Handbook for Revolution by Roman Krznaric

• Roots of Empathy by Mary Gordon

• The Compassionate Mind by Paul Gilbert

• The Compassionate Mind Approach To Postnatal Depression: Using Compassion Focused Therapy to Enhance Mood, Confidence and Bonding by Michelle Cree

• The Lost Art of Listening: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P Nichols

• The Promise That Changes Everything: I Won’t Interrupt You by Nancy Kline

Acts of kindness change your mental health https://www.sussex.ac.uk/research/centres/kindness/people

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and            https://www.bbc.co.uk/ideas/videos/the-woman-who-was-kind-every-day-for-a-year/p0bt6c4j

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Understanding Trauma

• The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk

• The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Bruce D Perry and Maia Szalavitz

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dsCNuB_KBUw

Understanding Attachment

      Relationship Matters Gordon Neufeld TED TALK https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YjfpGGOGDCo&t=673s

• The making and breaking of affection bonds by Bowlby

• Principles of Attachment-Focused Parenting: Effective Strategies to Care for Children by Daniel A Hughes

• Creating Loving Attachments: Parenting with PACE to Nurture Confidence and Security in the Troubled Child by Kim S Golding and Daniel A Hughes

• Why Can't My Child Behave?: Empathic Parenting Strategies that Work for Adoptive and Foster Families   By Dr Amber Elliot

Parenting Without Punishment

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• Parentuality: How to Have an Amazing Relationship with Your Child by Dr Linda Mallory

• Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason by Alfie Kohn

• Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise and Other Bribes by Alfie Kohn

• 8 Keys to Building Your Best Relationships (8 Keys to Mental Health) by Daniel A Hughes

Forgiveness

• Forgive for Good by Dr Fred Luskin

• The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Archbishop Desmond Tutu

• Finding Forgiveness: A 7-Step Program for Letting Go of Anger and Bitterness by Eileen R Borris Dunchunstang

• The Forgiveness Project: Stories for a Vengeful Age by Marina Cantacuzino

The Experience of Different Ages in Life

• I am Different from You: How Children Experience Themselves by Peter Selg

• Taking Charge: Your Life Patterns and Their Meaning by Gudrun Burkhard

Psychotherapeutic Aspects of Therapy

• A Living Physiology: Lectures and Essays by Karl Konig

• A Psychology of Human Dignity by Ad Dekkers

Sense-able

• Why Cleaning Has Meaning: Bringing Wellbeing Into Your Home by Linda Thomas