Developing Love 

I am currently inviting course participants to train as future course leaders.

To love and be loved improves the quality of life, self-worth, a sense of purpose, improved health and happiness. You will find that the strength and uniqueness of this course of lessons lies in the practicality of the exercises.


Active Practical Love is a course of twelve lessons designed to help you to develop your capacity to love. I have been giving these lessons now since 1995 and participants who have sincerely practised the exercises say they have learned to love anyone unconditionally, unreservedly and wholeheartedly. Thus, I feel confident that these lessons will help those who find it difficult to love.


The kind of love you will experience is an active force or a sensation welling up inside you. You may experience it as a feeling or a flowing sensation in the centre of your body. Not the heady sensation of falling in love, but a strong flow that is replenished constantly as it flows from you. Loving in this way will leave you feeling refreshed or energised rather than tired and exhausted as you may have felt when you have tried to force yourself to love someone.


Each lesson is quite condensed and consists of

  • a theme or ‘image’ to raise your awareness,

  • an exercise to activate a change of consciousness in you, and

  • some thought provoking homework to keep you on track.


While you are following these lessons you will be expected to practice the different exercises in your daily life. This is because your capacity to love actively will grow as you practise the exercises. The homework and the theme or imaginative picture of each lesson are given to help you notice more about how people think, feel and behave. In fact, everything you notice about yourself and others will be key to your ability to develop a greater capacity to love.


You may find some themes or exercises have more relevance or meaning to you. However, as you continue to practice loving actively, and reflect on the themes and exercises, you will become aware of how much more you are able to love unconditionally and unreservedly. You should also notice that loving actively is not exhausting, but feels refreshing and abundant, deeply moving and energising.


Ultimately, the themes and exercises are specifically designed to help you to change something in yourself, and the exercises cannot be used to manipulate another, because they are working on you.  However, ‘the other’ does change as Active Practical Love has a freeing effect on ‘the other’. In the early years I called this course of lessons Giving Freedom, because the effects of such an Active Practical Love allow others to be more themselves. Being loved in this way, ‘the other’ is made free to develop; in other words, when you are able to love someone unconditionally and unreservedly they are given the vitality to become who they really are.


So, as you become more practised you will recognise the full force of the activity of love. You will experience the effect on you the giver as well as the receiver of your love. The truth is that you change yourself as soon as you wish to change your feelings towards someone. So, when you practise the exercises your feelings of disappointment, disgust and resentment will transform into powerful feelings of love; or in the case of an absence of feeling for the other, a lack of regard can be transformed into deep felt loving affection.

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